Toxic Friendship: Why Some People Are Poison to You
Manipulation as a Hobby
Everyone likes to blaspheme from time to time. But here, it depends on the "how." Gossiping about someone shouldn't dominate the conversation. How can we be sure that this person isn't talking about us as much behind our backs? Toxic people speak so badly about other friends that you are suddenly mad at these friends after the conversation. They play other people against each other without us noticing. Such persons are artists of manipulation. They playfully cast a spell on us and make us do exactly what they want.
This also works wonderfully with pity. Do you keep doing favors to a friend because she is so stressed out? And that all the time? But nothing ever comes back. Think about it. Friendship consists of giving and taking. These people play games with us. Their intention is to have the power over us - which nobody but ourselves should have.
Toxic Friends make you feel Guilty
"Somehow, that one person keeps making me feel bad – whatever." Does that sound familiar to you? Take care of yourself. Toxic people always look for faults in others and never in themselves. At the same time, they consistently make us feel guilty about everything. When they are in a bad mood, we show consideration and automatically think that we did something wrong. So, we run after that person to apologize. But wait a minute - what for? In the next moment, this person will be your best friend again.
Their extremes magically attract us, but the mood swings are not suitable for us in the long run. Such people only use us to make themselves feel good. This kind of toxic friendship brings only negative things to ourselves.
False Friends make you Doubt Yourself
If you always feel uncomfortable around a supposed friend, something is wrong. Some people feel the urge to put us down to feel better about themselves. These people are poison for our self-confidence. If you have been with them, you will no longer feel at peace with yourself afterward because you are frequently given the feeling that you are not good enough and make mistakes. "Really? Well, you can do it like that, but I would never do that ... "is a typical sentence of these people, which immediately makes us doubt ourselves.
Such behavior has nothing to do with genuine friendship and is highly toxic. When real friends criticize us, they do so to make us happier. They are there to build us up, not to bring us down.
